Note: These are collected from all over. A few are written by me. But all are liked by me.
My relationship with you is not like rain which comes and goes
It is like air
Sometimes silent but always around you.
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I know some times I irritate you , sometimes I hurt you, sometimes I overreact also.
But that’s all because love you so much and I feel comfortable with you,
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For any healthy relationship (both personal and professional) the following are essential: (1) Courage and comfort to speak one’s mind early on in a respectful manner. Anything one suppresses will erupt like a volcano later (2) Compassion: Caring about others and reaching out in case of any misunderstanding, instead of walking away.(3) Conscientiousness: If a wrong stance or a hurried decision was taken, the willingness to correct or express regret without letting ego come in between. If needed the openness to seek an apology from the other party, instead of matters languishing in a stalemate.
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“Every thing you love is very likely to be lost, but in the end, love will return in a different way.”
― Franz Kafka
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Every word has consequences. Every silence too,
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You always feel like you could have done more. But that is your trauma talking. You did enough. And now it is time for you to let go and honour what you deserve,
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Hang out with people who fit your future and not your history
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As long as one continues to block and bar the other Rna continues to accumulate. Otherwise relationships slowly fade over time.
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Tongue has no bones. But it is strong enough to break a heart.
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If you repeatedly have to tell someone same exact thing about how you feel and nothing changes, understand that they don’t respect you
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It is extremely hard to say who is good and who is bad. There are some seemingly bad people who do wrong to someone persevere for years to reconcile and redeem so much that they turn out to be good in retrospect. Whereas many good people, seldom go back and right the wrongs to those wronged and give them justice or at least give an explanation. They rather lose a relationship.
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If you love someone set them free
If they come back again that means nobody loved them
Set them free again
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In general, nobody gives you justice. If you get your due it may be incidental than anything else. May be it is an act of kindness.
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The calmer you are, clearer you think. Move with strategy, not with emotion.
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It will hurt
And hurt
And hurt
And hurt
..
And hurt
And then
One day
It won’t,
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I think there is a point in your healing journey when you stop trying to convince people to do the right thing. You just observe their choices, understand their character and decide what you are going to allow in your life
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We live in a generation where we ignore each other to get each other’s attention
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The most expensive liquid in the world is tear. It is 1% water and 99% feelings. Think before you hurt someone.
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Consistency is harder when nobody is clapping for you.
You should clap for yourself.
You should be your biggest fan
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When someone says something from the bottom of his heart it becomes true.
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You either quit or keep going. They both hurt.
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Anger and fear go together.
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When you love someone you are willing to bear lot of pain for their sake. You may also be prepared to cause a lot of pain to them.
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Na tum hi mile na mayassar tumhari deed hui
Tum hi kaho ki Muharram ya Eid hui.
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Na Hath Diya, Na Galay Milay, Na Muyassar Tumhari Deed Hui,
Ab Tum Hi Batao Aey Saajan Ye Qayamat Hui ke EiD Hui.
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Separation creates resistance
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Trauma is what happens to us suddenly and your brain cannot take it anymore. Your brain gets affected sometimes for life. Your memories get fragmented.
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In any relationship, we come together and create proximity. There is bonding and then after bonding it gives rise to a phase of separation.
And the separation in the world, most of it is forced.
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Separation is not welcomed. Separation happens suddenly. If we look at the separation in our lives 99% happens suddenly. Separation leads to grief.
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Separation unlocks the grieving process always. Whenever there is separation, there is grief.
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Stages of grief: Denial, Rage-Protest, Sadness-Pining, Fear-Terror-Panic, Rationalization, Acceptance, Forgiveness and Rebonding.
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Fighting for your rights (or what is right or Dharma) is also self-renounciation.
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Relationship and memory cannot be separated. Every relationship has an absorbed memory associated with it and it cannot be destroyed.
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Memory carries through silence
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Dialogue leads to closure
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In the fight between self-respect and my love for you
I never let self-respect win
That is why I suffer
(FB)
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Practice the Pause
Pause before assuming
Pause before accusing
Pause whenever you’re about to react harshly
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In life the only two things you can control
are your life and attitude
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No matter how good your heart is
Eventually you have to treat people the way they treat you
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At some point, you just have to let go of what you thought should happen
and live in what is happening
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To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.
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In one life time, you will love many times
But one love will burn your soul forever
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Until you heal yourself
you will be toxic to everyone
who will try to love you
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Between what is said and what is meant and what is meant and what is said
most love is lost
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Fall in love with your problems
Maybe they will leave you too
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Some times your heart needs more time to accept
what your mind already knows
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As you age people who know you well may treat badly
And
People who know you barely may treat you well
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You disrespect yourself
when you beg someone
for bare minimum things like love, respect, affection, support, reciprocation etc.
Don’t do that shit again
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The worst pain is
getting hurt by
the person you
explained your pain to
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It is not interests and values that guide any relationship
Rather it is behaviours towards each other.
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You will never find the same person twice
Not even in the same person
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When you lose an emotional attachment to someone
you realize how ordinary they are.
It’s your love and your energy
that makes people seem so special
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Someone being patient with you
is one of the purest form of love
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Some times we lose people
Because we over-love them
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Sometimes you think you want to disappear
but all you really want is to be found
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If I really care,
I will try 400 times,
But once I am done,
It’s over
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The best memory always remains unphotographed
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As long as the mind is seeking pleasure and avoiding pain
There cannot be love
-Krishmurthy
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Before you judge someone about their anger
Ask them about their pain
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Moments become memories
People become lessons. That’s life.
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You are neither sugar nor spice
rather you are like salt
Just need a little of you
but badly
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Learn your place in people’s life
so that you don’t overplay your part
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You can not see your reflection in boiling water.
Similarly you can not see the truth in a state of anger
When waters calm clarity comes
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Accept people as they are
But place them where they belong
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It is better to be hated for something you are
than be loved for something you are not
–Andre Gide
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Manipulation is when they get upset with you for your behaviour but never discuss their disrespect/behaviour that triggered you.
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The heartless person you saw at the end,
was the person they really were all along
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You don’t always have to tell your side of the story
Time will
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Peace begins when expectations end
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Make peace with the fact that you will be misunderstood
when you vibrate on a different frequency
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Toxic relationship is one where love is present but trust and respect are not
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Privacy is power. What people don’t know they can’t ruin.
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Nobody cares how you feel
Until you make them feel
How they made you feel
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You can’t change someone by loving them harder
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We got so preoccupied in closing our imperfect past that
did not realize that the perfect and joyous present became past
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You are like mild breeze
You spread happiness without effort and with elan
Just a smile will give meaning to miles of journey
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